The Benefits of Orgasm

By Blake Parker
The Benefits of Orgasm
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Nearly 85% of men report giving one to their partner within the last 30 days. More than 64% of women claim to have had one during their most recent sex session. Meanwhile, men are more likely to one while women have to work a little harder for theirs. Both sexes enjoy an increase in its intensity as they grow older and wiser, although neither report participating in activities that lead to it any less as they age. In fact, women experience it more on their own than with a partner, and men can get it done either way as long as the right nerve endings are stimulated. It’s called an orgasm and all the cool kids are doing it. Why? Because it feels like nirvana and it’s good for your health too. Well, I’ll be damned.

As it turns out, a properly executed orgasm can be advantageous in more ways than one, not just beneficial to your social life and ball density. Science and media have proven that good O-faces may not look very attractive in the heat of the moment but that they can sure as hell help us make friends and slow down the aging process while making participants feel like supermodels simply because of the tingling, full-bodied sensations they experience. It’s no wonder, then, why the sex industry is worth billions of dollars at this point. Apparently, we’re all looking for the same thing, it’s just that we didn’t realize how harmoniously our bodies responded to sex until now. So, how much do you think you know? Probably not enough.

What Is an Orgasm?

Believe it or not, the ability to have an orgasm isn’t something that all species share. Certain animal families are locked into having sex strictly for procreational purposes, and some of those acts of congress are downright frightening if I’m being honest. As human beings, however, we’re one of the lucky few who can actually enjoy making passionate love to our partners. It’s not a chore for us and, in fact, it’s actually good for our health. That’s exactly why it’s so important to learn and understand what I’m talking about when I mention “the big O.” If you haven’t had one yet, I seriously think you should be able to qualify for disability.

Interestingly, there just so happens to be a medical diagnosis for folks who can’t a proper climax from foreplay, sex or masturbation. It’s called “orgasmic disorder” and it’s a lot more common than you think (even for men). And while there are a few treatments, there is no known cure. So for a surprisingly large portion of the population, disability claims are actually legit and it’s a pretty sad affair. Meanwhile, the erotic elite can leisurely experience as many climaxes as they want without ever realizing how beneficial it is to their overall wellbeing. Indeed, sex is the key to life in more ways than one.

According to modern dictionaries, though, it sounds like more of a mechanical response from any stimulated body when, in reality, it’s so much more magical than that. Here’s how Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary so eloquently describes it:

“a rapid release of pleasure caused by a neuromuscular tensions at the pinnacle of sexual arousal, usually (but not always) accompanied by semen ejaculation in males and by vaginal contractions in females.”

Sounds pretty scientific, doesn’t it? That’s not sexy at all. So in layman’s terms, an orgasm (or O-face) is described more like this:

“the physical and emotional sensations experiences during the peak of erotic stimulation, typically caused by excitation of a sexual organ and usually accompanied by an ejaculation and/or vaginal contractions.”

That sounds a bit better but it’s still not doing the trick. This feeling is as close to pure bliss as is humanly possible, so how do we describe that with mere words? I think it’s safe to say that sexual climaxes feel different for everybody, but we probably don’t know enough about them to develop any realistic definitions yet. Perhaps your exploration of the possibilities will lead to exciting new discoveries. Contrary to popular belief, there’s still a whole bunch to learn about human sexuality and its response to various internal and/or external stimuli.

For example, it wasn’t until after the sexual revolution of the 1960s that the female orgasm was considered a real thing. Before that, ladies were considered mere vessels for the gentlemen – impregnable beings created only for procreation. Thanks to scientific curiosities and the destruction of certain social taboos, ladies not only have the legitimacy they’ve been looking for but they also have more intense experiences as a result of our halted denial. In fact, studies suggest that the female orgasm is up to 20 times more powerful than males. I can’t help but shutter at the thought of how much time was wasted on pursuits of foolish pride, religious dogma, and incomplete research.

Back in the day, orgasmic things were super cray. Ladies had to get their dildos and vibrators from the family doctor – a conversation that almost certainly lead to very awkward exchanges at the upcoming well-child checks. It wasn’t long, however, until ladies (and their gentlemanly counterparts) starting demanding more ergonomic sex toys without an unnecessary prescription. So, between the techniques they already knew and the support they ultimately got from the newly developed devices being steadily introduced, people began experiencing the kinds of climaxes that they had only dreamed of before. Then, sexual health experts jumped on the bandwagon to find out what all the fuss was about. The result: The New Age of Erotica – where male/female orgasms reign supreme and a more sophisticated understanding of ejaculation has finally been achieved.

Are Ejaculation and Orgasm the Same Things?

Did you know that ejaculations and orgasms are not the same? Many people don’t understand this, but getting off isn’t synonymous with reaching the big O. The two are actually separate functions of the human body, with unique results each and every time – both of which can be experienced simultaneously and/or independently. Put simply, it’s what separates the good sex from the bad, the satisfying experiences from the ones that you only tell your best friends about. Kids, this is a distinction for the grownups only.

According to science and sexual health experts alike, an orgasm is generally defined as a sudden discharge of built-up physical and/or emotional excitement, usually brought on by erotic touch or stimulation to various erogenous zones. Unfortunately, that sounds a lot like cumming to more folks, thus the confusion ensues. Truth be told, the difference is easy to spot once you’ve got the right information. Here’s one way to think about it: Ejaculation is what happens when the nerve endings in your no-no spots get stimulated long enough to produce a natural physical reaction. Orgasm, on the other hand, is what happens as a result of an ejaculation that’s tied to a psychological and physical response (combined). It’s the ultimate in euphoric pleasure and it’s most likely the only reason why we as a species have survived this long.

Fortunately, men and women have had enough sex by now to distinguish between mere cumming and an explosive catapult to O-Town. When our curiosities piqued with the industrial revolution, we started finding out that there were measurable brain chemistry changes that resulted from a fully satisfying sexual experience. It was much more than the procreative efforts our ancestors were used to. It was something new entirely - an orgasm, the one thing we weren’t putting into our medicine bottles at the time. Once we realized that there was a lengthy period of floaty relaxation immediately afterwards, we began retracing our steps to find out exactly how we could incorporate safe, healthy sexual activities into our already busy lives.

Meanwhile, curious minds started going crazy with the idea of improving our collective opinions about foreplay, intercourse and (surprisingly enough) even masturbation. Here’s what our best minds have discovered about each one along the way:

EJACULATION

  • It’s just a reflex that originates from the sympathetic branch of the autonomic nerve system inside the average person’s body.
  • It has little to nothing to do with pleasure, arousal, sexual interest or satisfaction.
  • Often called “cumming”, “jizzing”, or “blowing a load,” it’s usually accompanied by feeling of physical release (centralized in the genital region). 
  • It can be experienced by both men and women with enough constant stimulation to the right erogenous zones(s).
  • In females, it’s often called squirting, which is highly favored sexual behavior that’s commonly featured on high-brow porn productions.

I think that I shall never see a poem as lovely as a hot-gushing, butt-cramping, gut hosing orgasm.” - Chuck Palahniuk

ORGASM

  • It is the result of a well-timed combination of excitement and/or passion with a wet, satisfying ejaculation.
  • It has a lot to do with the mindset of the participants involved and not necessarily with their exposure to physical stimulation.
  • It goes by many names but it feels more like an explosion than an ejaculatory release, with a sudden burst of deep, intense pleasure mixed with a welcomed decrease in cognitive function and body strength.
  • It can be experienced by both men and women with enough constant stimulation to the right erogenous zones and diligent attention paid to body cues.
  • It produces relaxing feelings due to the immediate release of mood-boosting, muscle pampering hormones like prolactin, oxytocin and endorphins.
  • In females, it is often described as being 20 times more intense than in men.

NOTE: Both ejaculation and orgasm can result in involuntary muscle spasms and random, filthy vocalizations. In fact, if they don’t then you’re probably not doing it right.

If you still don’t believe that there’s a big difference between ejaculation and orgasm then you’re most likely a virgin a in over your head like whoa. Otherwise, it should be pretty clear by now that the objective here is to do more than simply expel your bodily fluids onto a chosen surface. A legit orgasm will consist of a rhythmic experience that radiates through your entire being and, luckily, promotes better marks in your relationships as well as your yearly physical. I suggest you start appreciating the finer things in life, lest you die a slow, painful and untimely death just because you didn’t get off enough. SMH.

Understanding How Men and Women Cum Differently

We keep talking all this mess about the difference between basic cumming and flat-out losing your shit on a mind-blowing orgasm but we haven’t touched base on how the experience differs for each of the sexes. According to a lot of studies, participants who were charged with describing the sensations of orgasm communicated eerily similar depictions when all anatomical references were eliminated. However, science has already proven that women experience sexual climaxes on an entirely different physical and emotional level, with an intensity that’s often categorized as several times more intense than men. Maybe that’s why most hetero guys are willing do whatever it takes to get a woman to show her O-face as much as humanly possible.

And that’s the thing. Women are naturally capable of having more than one orgasm at a time, while men can only pull of one (maybe two) in each session, depending on their overall health and ability to recover from a powerful ejaculation. On the flip side, guys can have a full-blown orgasm without ever ejaculating (although they usually do that as well anyway). The good news is that being multi-orgasmic depends more on your actions and behaviors while relying less on your pre-destined anatomical makeup, relationship status or sexual orientation. In other words, orgasms are appropriate for and advantageous to any sexually active adult who gives a damn about optimal body functions, good moods and achieving ultimate relaxation. It’s no longer boys against girls, folks.

But despite the obvious anatomical uniqueness of males and females by comparison – even in terms of their individual genital designations, their sex organs and their physiological and/or psychological responses to erotic stimuli - men and women are both big fans of the O-lympics regardless of how old they are, where they come from, or why they’re pursuing an orgasm. And while delivery methods can vary widely from one person to another, there’s a common thread between us all and that’s this one simple fact: Good orgasms will never go out of style and neither will the integration of pleasure products to get help us have one. Honestly, it’s probably the best time in recorded history to be having sex because it finally doesn’t matter about your gender when it comes to the pursuit of horny happiness.

The Top 10 Health Benefits of Orgasm

Telling someone to have more orgasms is like telling a dog to bark. It’s unnecessary because it’s programmed into our very existence, meaning we will try to experiences it whether it’s a good idea or not. Fortunately, having successful sexual encounters is a lot more productive for our species than standing on the porch making repetitive noises with our snout. That’s why mankind is and always will be greater than anything in animal kingdom. Sorry, PETA, but it’s true. We only make ape sounds in the bedroom when a good ollie-oop makes us feel like we’re on another planet. Now let’s see those bananas.

Our species’ desire to procreate by whatever means stems from an ancient, primal drive that has ensured all future generations since then. However, it became blatantly obvious somewhere along the way that the mere act of spilling baby batter into a gaping vajeen wasn’t enough to suffice a safe, healthy and satisfying sex life. We’re just too sophisticated for that. In fact, some cultures still believe that a healthy pregnancy can’t even occur unless one or both of the participants has an erotic spiritual experience (AKA: a kick-ass orgasm). Oh how we all wish that were true.

Meanwhile, well-versed experts from around the globe have joined forces to reveal more about the human response to erotic stimulation than we ever thought possible. I’m talking about eye-opening input from respected disciplines like urology, proctology, relationship therapy, obstetrics and gynecology, reflexology and even horticulture too. As it turns out, enthusiastic fucking just so happens to be good for a whole lot more than just satisfying our primal need to be fruitful and multiply. It’s actually an act of self-preservation and not in the way you think. Here are the top 10 best researched health benefits of experiencing frequent orgasms (whether by yourself or with a partner, it really doesn’t matter):

1. You Get a Swift Kick to the Immune System

Did you know that good sex that leads to an orgasm can also lead to more robust immunities? According to a study published way back in 2004, men (and women) who masturbated and/or engaged in climactic sexual activity were able to sustain higher levels of leukocytes – powerful and essential “killer” cells that attack unwanted viruses, bacteria and environmental pollutants in the blood stream, thereby creating a stronger constitution and lessening the time it takes a person to recover from treatable illnesses (and without medication too). Research also reveals that the cocktail of hormones released during orgasm can further boost the immune system and often accounts for fewer sicknesses year-round.

2. Your Sleep Patterns Become More Chill

Tossing and turning in bed should only be for those nights when wild sex is on the menu because inadequate amounts of deep, REM-dense sleep can result in big trouble in little China, if you know what I mean. But between the quick release of naturally occurring endorphins and oxytocin into the body and the elimination of oxidative stress reserves, those who enjoy frequent orgasms tend to sleep better on average, especially when compared to individuals/couples who reached a successful climax only 1-2 times per week. And unlike expensive sleeping pills that come with about a million adverse side effects, great sex is cheap and doesn’t negatively affect your health in any way. Quite the contrary, actually.

3. You’re Able to Tolerate Pain Like a Champ

Speaking of special chemicals and compounds floating around in our veins after terrific sex, the release of oxytocin also helps alleviate various pains in the body. According to research, an orgasm can reduce discomfort by as much as 70% in some cases, making the post-O-face recess the perfect time to experiment with different positions and insertion points. This is yet another reason why couple’s sex toys are so essential for good health and everlasting happiness. After all, it takes the average woman nearly 20 minutes to reach orgasm, while guys require only about 5. By the time you figure out how to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, the endorphin rush will be long gone and any erotic experimentation on the table will have to supported by less cost-effective means (numbing agents, specialty lubes, trips to the mall, etc.)

4. You Get More Smarter

Your high school teachers probably didn’t tell you this but having lots of sex can help slow down the death of precious brain cells and promote the production of new ones. A study was conducted back in the early 2000s to determine exactly how orgasms affected neurological function and cardiovascular responses to various brain synapses. What was discovered still baffles even the most sexually enlightened among us. Tests showed that participants enjoyed a massive increase in blood flow to the entire cerebrum, fueling the organ with the much-needed oxygen, nutrients and hormones to operate at optimal levels for extended periods of time. Oh yeah, I forgot one thing: Orgasms help improve your memory too, so it looks like I need to be having more them.

5. You Shed Unwanted Pounds without Ever Hitting the Gym

There’s nothing wrong with having a dad bod (or a cougar’s ass) but some people just don’t want that for themselves or their partner. Going to the gym is always an option and so is eating healthy, but who wants to go get made fun of, be rejected or fail when you’re already struggling through being horny as a goat? As if God Himself wanted us all to live long and fruitful lives, sex was naturally designed to act as a recreational form of calorie-incinerating exercise. Health experts say that a 30-minute romp in the sack can burn more than 200 of them because it acts as a HIIT (high-intensity interval training) workout that ends in ejaculation, especially after a successful orgasm is reached. Hopefully, you don’t get results like that at the local gym. Awkward!

6. You Alleviate Headaches, Migraines and Annoying Neighbors

I don’t know what’s worse – a pain in the head or a pain in the ass. If you’re from my neck of the woods, you’ve had plenty experience with both. Good fences make great neighbors but great orgasms make fences obsolete. Also, your partner can never use the “I’ve got a headache from the jackass next door” excuse again because not only have you made it painfully awkward to make direct eye contact at the mailbox but you’ve also wiped that migraine out with some highly skilled genital work. Congrats on completing your first act of selflessness, you greedy bastard. Now get out there and make sure the whole block knows your name.

7. You Boost Everyone’s Baby-Making Powers

Not everyone who has sex wants to have a baby to go along with it but some people do. Those interested in improving their chances of starting a family have some happy news to get them off on the right foot, that is, if they’re having lots of mind-blowing sex. Experts say that routine sexual climaxes can help regulate a woman’s period, which in turn can lead to better planning and more effective implantation. Furthermore, men who enjoy tons of filth, flarn and fun usually see better stamina in the sack, improved heart health, improved sperm motility and enhanced virility - all leading to frequent simultaneous orgasms and optimized body functions, especially if a volume pill or performance enhancement supplement is used at the same time.

8. You Might Not Die So Soon

They say the good die young, so it looks like you’ve got a better chance of surviving in this world if you’re bad (and I don’t mean bad in bed either). In fact, being good enough between the sheets to achieve or deliver a decent O-face is an accomplishment that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Research from nearly two decades ago shows that men and women who have lots of orgasms with a partner enjoy a mortality risk that’s cut in half, plus those results don’t change much because of age either. In other words, getting it on helps you live a little bit longer, even if you’re old as dirt already.

9. You Combat Bullshit Stress and Anxiety Naturally  

Today’s world is filled with all sorts of over the counter and prescription medications that are designed to eliminate feelings of stress and anxiety, but many of those products carry with them side effects that can be extremely dangerous – some of which might even reduce your ability to have satisfying sexual experiences with yourself or a partner. Instead, people are starting to turn towards sex as an all-natural alternative to pills, potions and other pharmaceuticals. Can you blame them? I mean, the immediate relaxation and mood boost help put things into perspective as soon as your eyes stop rolling in the back of your head. That alone is enough to convince me to swallow cum instead of capsules.

10. You Detox the Filth from Your Sweaty Ass Body

Because making sweet, sweet love turns your bed into a small pond, I think it’s safe to say that much of your body gets a good cleansing from the O-face Olympics. Due to all the perspiration and body fluid expulsions (plus the after-cum piss you’re supposed to take, according to doctors), a lot of the toxins in your blood get flushed right out of your system and into the nearest tube sock. The act of sweating, albeit stinky sometimes, actually massages the lymphatic glands to remove the bad stuff and replace it with skin-nourishing oils that double as a natural source of lube and lotion. Meanwhile, the inevitable release of pheromones will increase pleasure on both sides. It’s a win-win situation, Captain Armpits. Just be careful, because orgasm can also increase a person’s sense of smell.

Obviously, the cat has been let all the way out of the bag and you now know about all the interesting (and surprisingly logical) health benefits associated with a properly executed orgasm. You’ve got 99 problems but bad sex ain’t one. However, simply knowing about how awesome a sexual climax is won’t be much help when it’s time to perform for a partner. On top of that, you may not be able to enjoy all the advantages unless you get a basic education in erotica. Look no further, kids. School is in session.

5 Helpful Facts about Orgasm You Probably Don’t Know

In Sex Ed., they hardly ever teach us about the value of a decent love life. Instead, they spend their time trying to convince us that having intercourse could be the worst mistake of our lives. In many ways that’s true but neglecting to speak on the good parts has left a lot of us with no idea how to please a partner, let alone benefit from all the things that an orgasm can do for our health. It does us no good to concentrate on the negatives nor learn about the positives if we can’t pull off the mission when we’re missionary. Here, maybe these five facts will help you better understand what you’re working with:

1. Age Ain’t Nothin’ But a Number, Honey

As guys get older, they start to crave sexual interactions even more, with far too many of them reaching what’s known as the dreaded “mid-life crisis.” Meanwhile, women seem to want physical affection just as much despite their maturity, and neither men nor women showed signs of decreased orgasmic intensity either. It just goes to show that some things always get better with age – good cheese, fine wine, and amazing sex with your partner.

2. Disabilities Don’t Mean Shit

Who says you can’t have record-breaking orgasms alongside a physical disability? Research shows that people who live with mobility limitations are just as horny and curious as the able-bodied folk, meaning the same health benefits can be enjoyed despite your body’s range of motion. In fact, there’s now special positioning tools available to help people experience their wettest dreams in a safe and enjoyable way. Did someone say sex pillow?

3. Women Are Masturbating at Record-Breaking Levels

Friends tell us that girls don’t like playing with themselves but experts say something entirely different. Their research has revealed Victoria’s Secret in a very big way, showing men once and for all that they’ll always have to fight for first place. As luck would have it, women now say that they’re more likely to reach orgasm when they’re clicking their own mouse as opposed to fucking a willing partner. So, fellas, you might want to improve your bedroom game lest you get beaten out by a luxury-grade vibrating dildo with a suction cup base. Ouch.

4. Men Are More Likely to Get Off Than Women

A study conducted by the National Survey for Sexual Health and Behavior back in 2010 concluded that guys had an easier time reaching orgasm than women. Whoopty-doo, right? We kind of already knew that. Well, what we didn’t know was that ladies get off more effortlessly when they’re stimulated through oral sex or clitoral massage – not necessarily vaginal intercourse. Perhaps you’re making this harder than it has to be?

5. It’s Possible to Have a Genital-Free Orgasm

You don’t even have to feel the touch of another person or the sensations of a sex toy to reach a decent erotic climax. In fact, it’s not only possible to have a non-genital culmination of arousal but it’s also relatively easy to deliver or experience something like that when you have the right techniques. Interestingly, genital-free orgasms are even possible for people with serious spinal cord injuries, furthering supporting the fact that disabilities don’t mean shit.

Only when you know the finer points of anything can you fully benefit from what it has to offer. This is especially true when it comes to foreplay, sex, masturbation or anything else that leads to the ultimate O-face. There may be numerous health advantages to having an orgasm but that doesn’t mean you’re going to experience them all just because you want to. Things like this almost always depend on a person’s ability to customize his or her approach to sexuality and pleasure proportionate to their lifestyle. Come at this the right way and you’ll be one of the lucky fucks who can take reliable orgasms and optimized health to the bank like they’re made out of solid gold.

The Dirty Dozen: 12 Tips to Experience More Intense Sex

With all the hype surrounding the health benefits of orgasm, it’s no wonder why so many people are experiencing anxiety about how much (or how little) they’re getting it on. Everyone wants to be happy, healthy and successful but some folks have a harder time than others when it comes to reaching a satisfying climax. Even people who don’t have full-blow orgasmic disorder or erectile dysfunction often reach a point in their lives when it becomes a lot more difficult to get off, but age isn’t always a factor nor is the person’s relationship status, sexual orientation or financial wellbeing. Feeling good as gold is usually equated to a well-balanced mindset, yet mentally unstable people can have orgasms too. Apparently, it’s a little more complicated that that.

Intensifying your ejaculation so that it inevitably leads to a full-bodied orgasm isn’t as hard as it sounds, despite all the bad advice columns you might have stumbled across along the way that say otherwise. If it’s all in your mind then why, for example, is today’s sex toy industry worth billions of dollars? Their marketing teams can’t be that good, can they? Most people rightfully assume that a decent OH-M-G requires some assistance from modern-day technologies and innovations, that’s all. So, here’s to your health because the good things in life are hard to find and nothing worth having is ever free.

As such, these are the top 12 tools and/or techniques that the pros use to either generate and/or experience the most intense orgasms known to man (and regularly too):

1. Diligent Scene Preparations

Since much of what happens when we climax has to do with our mental and emotional state, it makes sense to set the scene with some comfortable, inviting and relaxing things. This might include sex pillows for better positioning, soft music to get in the groove, or mood lighting to give your partner a big hint about your intentions. Either way, you’ll want to create a space that has “sex” written all over it or else your partner may be too distracted to reach the top of the mountain.

JUST THE TIP: Give your lover a sensual massage with muscle relaxing and/or pain killing oils so that their body is ready and willing to receive the goods in your groin.

2. Thorough Cleansing Rituals

Nobody wants to get legitimately filthy when they’re acting dirty. It’s a figure of speech, not a way of life. In fact, those who engage in sexual activity while being unclean can damage the quality of their love life without even trying. Things like UTIs, yeast infections, sexually transmitted diseases and communicable sicknesses can get passed back and forth at the speed of light. Plus, unkept sex toys might harbor dangerous amounts of dirt, dust, debris, dead skin cells and even fecal bacteria. Therefore, be sure to pre-wash your genitals, your bed sheets, your home surfaces and especially any sex toys you plan to use during the upcoming scene.

JUST THE TIP: Even if you feel as though both of you and your playthings are already clean, try to remember that germs are invisible, mmk?

3. Rigorous Study Sessions

I know you think the days of doing homework ended when you left school but you, my friend, are sadly mistaken. In fact, the research skills they teach us in class are only there to prepare us for living a happy, healthy and responsible adult life. This includes our pursuits of better orgasms, believe it or not. Studying up on the latest sex industry innovations while taking ample time to review possible options and read their instruction manuals makes you an instant O-face legend. Take it or leave it.

JUST THE TIP: Your best bet is to leave the customer reviews for the noobs and concentrate your attention on professionally written buyer’s guides instead. 

4. Open Communication Forums

Talking it out matters, that’s why psychotherapists make so much money on the hour. Even a short conversation can lead to massively helpful discoveries, especially in terms of sexuality, boundaries and expectations. Enjoy more intense orgasms by simply communicating with your partner in an open and honest way. Find out what makes them tick and tell them what drives you crazy. Worst case scenario, you get some truth off your chest and feel better about yourself because of it. #winning

JUST THE TIP: Try not to bombard your partner with tons of extremely kinky fetishes all at once because you might scare them off even if they’re into the same things.

5. Expressed Appreciation Attempts

Appreciating all that your partner does to get you off is one thing but letting them know how you feel is another. Sometimes, lovers can’t experience a full-blown orgasm simply because they’re unsure about how their beloved views their efforts. Told you it was about mentality every now and then, but anyway. Armed with that knowledge, begin expressing yourself a little bit more both in and out of the bedroom. Show some damn affection, people. It won’t kill you. I promise.

JUST THE TIP: Find out what your partner’s top three love languages are to give them acts of kindness that truly speak to their subconscious libido.   

6. Unhindered Body Explorations

Some of the best orgasms in the human experience have happened by surprise, and that’s mostly because people were relatively unfamiliar with their own bodies for a very long time. Nowadays, however, full body exploration is not only celebrated but it’s also expected by adulthood. Therefore, allowing yourself and/or your partner to try new things like penetrating new holes and/or incorporating new erotica equipment may be the key that finally unlocks the ultimate trouser treasure. I’m a poet and didn’t know it. See? Surprises.

JUST THE TIP: Use what you learned on the open communication forum to determine which boundaries can be pushed and which ones should be left alone no matter what.

7. Erotic Experimentations

You never know what you’ve got until it’s gone and you never know what you’re missing until you try. Contrary to popular belief, BDSM and bondage games aren’t all about extreme pain and physical abuse. Many of the techniques and scenes are designed to excavate a person’s innermost desires while freeing them from the dictates of gender assignment and relationship roles, usually resulting in more explosive orgasms for the participants. Back in the day, it was considered a taboo reserved for the mentally disturbed. But now, blockbuster movies are made to celebrate the dynamics of sadism and masochism. So, have you dabbled in the dark arts yet?

JUST THE TIP: Be super safe by only using equipment that’s specially made for bondage scenes and customizable pleasure.

8. Sex Toy Introductions

There’s nothing wrong with asking for a little help from time to time. Besides, sex toys sell by the truckload so you already know at least one of your partners has used one. Join the ranks of more sophisticated sexual satisfaction and get a side of tailored sensations for free. Pleasure products come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes, with designs targeted at almost every demographic under the sun. The Autoblow A.I., for instance, is ideal for men who enjoy nonstop oral stimulation and couples who struggle with foreplay. Like I said, you’ll feel less like a chump and more like a champ when you can get the job done by whatever mean necessary.

JUST THE TIP: Pay close attention to the device’s features and material makeup, as both factors will determine how much enjoyment you get out of it.

9. Avid Practice Missions

Picking out a new sex toy, attempting an unfamiliar activity or getting into a difficult position all require tons of practice. You will not be able to do any of them without running through the specs a few times at least, even if you’re convinced of your expertise. Neglecting to practice new techniques is a dangerous thing that can lead to situations that are much worse than a missed orgasm. In fact, most sex-related injuries happen when couples are unsure about how to handle unexpected situations.

JUST THE TIP: Allow for a slight learning curve when you’re practicing anything you haven’t tried before, that way you don’t dismiss an activity long before experiencing the full effect.

10. Masturbations

Doctors agree that masturbation is very good for a person’s overall health and social development, regardless of their age, gender, occupation or sexual preference. They also say that routine jerk off sessions can significantly improve someone’s experience in the bedroom, especially in terms of endurance and arousal. So, if you’re looking for a quick boost to your orgasmic intensity, try beating your meat more often before showing up for the real McCoy. If all else fails, at least you were able to get off a few times in the process.

JUST THE TIP: Successful masturbation should be accompanied by appropriate methods which sometimes involve the use of specialized, automatic pleasure machines.

11. Expert Observations

If you want to be a successful lover then you have to do what successful lovers do. That sometimes means observing them in action through a porn movie or with other XXX content for inspiration. Try to find out what those performers are doing differently than you and/or your partner and then do your best to incorporate those moves into your routine. Keep in mind, however, that some of today’s best automatic sex toys were designed using live porn movements for more realistic sensations than even a skilled partner could provide.

JUST THE TIP: Watching excessive amounts of extreme porn may give viewers unrealistic expectations in the bedroom, thereby decreasing their ability to reach orgasm in a normal way.

12. Smart Lube Applications

A study once found out that most people enjoy using specially formulated personal lubricants in bed, especially when they’re busy masturbating (with or without a partner). Products that heat up the skin, cause a tingling sensation or are edible make sexual activities of all kinds a lot more interesting. Not only that, but feature-rich lubes protect the skin from irritation and friction while providing easier access to orifices like mouths and anuses. Quickly transform your bedroom into a beautiful buffet of sights, sounds, tastes and sensations, then sit back to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

JUST THE TIP: Make sure the lubricants you choose are compatible with everyone’s skin type and with the materials of any sex toys you’re using because damages from negligence aren’t always covered on product warranties.

Moral of the story: Have orgasms and have then as often as possible because their good for your health and they’re beneficial to the condition of your relationship. Experience them alone or with someone else, it doesn’t matter. The point is to not be afraid to seek the help of modern technologies and to communicate your wants and needs to the people responsible for delivering O-faces at your doorstep.

About Blake Parker

Blake Parker makes Ron Jeremy look like Mother Theresa. His honest take on allthings pertaining to pleasure and relationships has made him a household name that’s synonymous with sexuality. Blake’s unique perspective on toys and techniques prepares the mind and body for more than just an incredible orgasm. Hisentertaining sex toy reviews, buyer’s guides, and How-To articles inform consumers of what nobody else will say. His readers demolish emotional/physical strongholds, tear down social taboos, and become more comfortable in their own skin as he and his partner enlighten the world one sex toy at a time. Notoriety isn’t the goal with Blake; satisfaction is.